Wish the best for my friend

To my friend, Olivia:

Time flies, and before you realize, we knew each other for 3 years. Ever since I knew you, you have been telling me about this guy in your heart. How you both met, how he made you mad, how you both quarrel, how he apologize after that, how you and his family interact, how he buys things for you. And I know, this guy is an important person in your life.

Few days ago, you asked me. You asked me is graduated student behave differently from us? You asked me, why don't you feel the love that he had for you anymore? You asked, why are you feeling he's hiding things away from you? I said, I don't know. The most probably reason is that he's busy working and he wants privacy. So, you accept the reason, and I thought the story ended. Then yesterday, you told me, you're not worth for his love. You feel you're useless, and feel you're a burden to him. You told me, you want to break up with him, and he told you he loves money more than he loves you. But no action, and again, I thought the story ended.

Today, when I received your sms, I was terribly shocked. This time, you told me that he said he doesn't have feeling in you anymore. He rather focus on his work so he wants to break up with you. BUT, IF YOU CHANGE your temper, he said he'll be accepting you again. I went online and found you. You told me you have been crying and not eating since then. You asked me why he behave so, and is he just telling you to make you feel better? Again, I said I don't know. I don't know what's going on in a guy's mind, but my concern, is I want you to be happy, and eat.

So, I don't want to tell you how sorry I feel for you. I don't want to have counseling session with you, I don't even want to comfort you because many people would have done so to you and you'll feel you're weak. Instead, depression will hurt your health, and if you're going to continue not eating, then you won't have the second chance to be with him again. So, I found you these few suggestions.

1. Execrise. Simple activities like jogging and swimming will help.
2. Go under the SUN. Don't hide in your little space at home, go see the Sunlight and feel the weather.
3. Eat banana. Interestingly, there's a fibre in banana that help stimulate the brain to minimize negative emotions.
4. Cry. If you feel to cry, please by all means CRY. Let out all your negative feelings.
5. Sleep. Get enough rest and sleep well.
6. Music. Calm music cool your heart and take you to peace.

Now, this might be the darkness moment in your heart. But when you walk out, you'll see light.

Change your focus, learn to let go. Give him a chance, and give yourself a chance to "reborn". Sometimes, we need to experience traumatic pain to grow up. The pain will be so painful that our heart is cracking into pieces. But, that's the process of growing up, as after thunderstorm, there'll be rainbow.

Let those memories, bury into your heart. Gal, we're here to support you!

Pray the best for him, do the best for yourself. Be tough oh!

Wish the best for you..

Love you,
Kate